Lesson No. 39

"The worst way to love someone is to sit next to them, knowing they don’t love you back."
hmmm... that's so unfair! nakakagigil at nakakainis ang ganyang sitwasyon kaya mga mahal kong kaibigan let me share something!

Here are the signs that will tell you that it's about time to DUMP YOUR BF or GF!:(dump talaga!)

1. HE/SHE NO LONGER CONSIDERS YOUR FEELINGS

   If you break your leg and your man doesn’t even visit you in the emergency room, that’s a problem. It shouldn’t have to come to that extreme (teka lang! mamamatay na ko oh!)  little signs that indicate a lack of empathy should be enough for you to know that your relationship has run its course. Need some examples? You have a bad day (and it’s written on your face) and he doesn’t ask you about it. You have a headache and he doesn’t offer you an aspirin. If you are in pain, whether physical or mental, and your man says or does nothing…that’s someone who doesn’t care about you. (ouch!)

2. HE/SHE HAS BECOME THE INVISIBLE MAN

   When you’re with someone, they should be there. If you are in a long distance relationship, that’s one thing. If your other half lives across town but you hardly ever see him/her…that’s a sure clue that he’s just not into you anymore. (or pwede rin naman na kasama mo sya pero parang hangin lang!)

3. HE/She has BECOME “MR./ms. X”

   You used to know your BF/GF inside and out but now you don’t know what’s going on in his life. For all you know he’s changed jobs, his name, his hair-color, his sexual orientation. You can’t be in a relationship if you don’t even know the person you’re in a relationship with. (pwede ring kilala mo na sya ng lubusan pero lately parang nalalabuan ka na sa kanya!)

4. YOU CAN’T STAND THE VERY SIGHT OF HIM/her

   You used to love his/her face. The cute way he/she smiled at you. Now… whenever you see him you want to throw up. Before, he/she said the cutest things. Now, if he/she speaks you want to slap him/her. Again, this may be extreme but if you don’t have an attraction to your BF/GF anymore, that’s a BIG problem. (panget ka kase! pa-facial nga tayo!)

5. YOU KEEP SECRETS

   One of the best things about being in a relationship is that you have someone you can confide in. A confidant is someone you can trust. If you can't share it with your BF/GF, it’s because you can’t trust him/her. You should be able to trust him/her. There are some secrets that everyone keeps to themselves but if you find yourself keeping more and more things closer to the vest.

6. NO SEX

   This one doesn’t include for medical reasons. This one doesn’t include those lovers who had a slow sex life to begin with. This clue is for those couples that were having sex but now don’t. Depending on how long you’ve been together, a natural decrease in the frequency is normal. I’m talking about the total absence of any desire for your BF/GF. When you don’t want to have sex with your man under any circumstances that is a major problem. (teka lang naging beystos ata ang usapan! Preno muna tayo! Agiiii!!!"

7. HE/ she DOESN'T TELL YOU ABOUT IMPORTANT THINGS

   This one ties into number five. You may still tell your BF/GF things but he/she doesn’t tell you things. Very important things like he’s seeing someone else. (medyo bastusan na pag ganitong usapan! wala namang ganyanan!)

8. YOU’RE VERY UNHAPPY

   You can’t expect that every day in a relationship is going to be sunshine and lollipops. However, if everyday feels like slow torture and you just want to curl up into a ball and cry…that’s not a good thing. You could be depressed but if you feel this way because of the one you're with…you don’t need a therapist to tell you that breaking up may make you loads happier. (mapapansin mo na lang mas maganda pang nagsimba ka para at least maliligtas mo yung soul mo kesa nasa bahay ka lang nagmumukmok! Itago na ang lubid, baril o kutsilyo! mahirap nah! tsk! tsk!)

9. HIS/her LITTLE BAD HABITS MAKE YOUR BLOOD BOIL

   He/she leaves his/clothes on the floor, doesn't flush the toilet, doesn't wash the dishes, drops their pants in the middle of the floor, and leaves his/socks in the living room! Then if you ask him/her to stop doing it  he/she will just say "I'll try" but he/she doesn't! If your BF/GF does little things that make you want to go nuclear, he/she should leave your crazy behind alone! (YAYA ang kailangan nito!)

10. YOU FEEL TRAPPED

    You feel crushed by the love you feel for your boyfriend/girlfriend. The weight of it is immense. No situation is unchangeable. You CAN free yourself. You just need the strength of your convictions.
    
    
    It is really TRUE (walang halong eklavern!) you can do bad all by yourself. I don’t care if you feel you are too old to find someone new, or too ugly, or too fat. 
    
    
    No relationship is worth you giving up your own happiness to maintain it.
    
    
    "The worst way to love someone is to sit next to them, knowing they don’t love you back." 
    I realize that "Being a strong person is not always easy; but I believe that it is the ONLY way to live and to love."